Tag Archives: Body

In my last article I talked about very subtle emotional and social abuses that Men often face in their relationships. Much of the abuse that I have seen levelled at Men is emotional or psychological in nature. Over the course of the next four articles I will be describing other forms of abuse that are frequently used against Men and Boys that I have encountered in coaching, and in simply spending time on forums for men and researching Men’s issues. I believe that it is very important to give solid examples and descriptions of each of these and how they work for a simple reason: Men often don’t know how to describe their abuse.

By creating this series, and eventually a book derived from it, I hope to give Men who are suffering from an abusive relationship to be able to recognize themselves and their experiences in the text.

When we talk about physical abuses, we usually talk about battering and intimate partner violence, a form of violence that is both terrifying to consider, and far less prevalent and gendered than we tend to think. Relationships with repetitive, directed violence, either sporadic or regular, are fairly rare. However there are other forms of physical abuse that are far more common, but because they do not involve striking a person to harm them, they are not generally visible in our public narrative. I want to talk about four forms of abuse that are physical in nature, but are unlikely to be identified as abuse by pundits, or even by Men who are suffering through them.

Continue reading →